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Marriage after MCS
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So where do I start here...I have 2 kids..12 and 2..I met Jon my husband in 2006 and we hit it off. We had a lot in common..we listened to the same music, love to drink alcohol!! Camping, concerts..everything it seems. We fell in love at the start. We were married in 2007 and had a child together in 2008. Right after my 2nd child I started to notice smoke and fragrance bothering me and slowly it came to me being homebound now.
Our marriage was great great great to now I can't stand being in the same room as him! I am worried he will bring smells home from work or who he has been around. MCS has taken its toll on us both which I acknowledge is my fault to begin with because if I didn't have this then we might be fine again.
I don't know what to do anymore, I rather live with myself and 2 kids..not with him. He adds so much stress that I already have......... MCS has ruined my life for sure..
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Allentown, PA, USA -75.49018330000001 40.6084305 http://maps.google.com/maps?z=15&q=40.6084305,-75.49018330000001 PermalinkI have total empathy for you. My marriage of 32 years is cracking under the strain of Mcs. I just have to shoulder on. It is very difficult to raise children and fight this battle. Be kind to yourself. You can recover if you reduce the stress and exposures.
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Comment last edited on about 5 years ago by Maff MaffHi Denise,
It sounds like you're having it really rough at the moment so thank you for taking the time to share with us.
What really stood out to me in your post is that you seem to be blaming yourself for the MCS and the problems it has caused. I'm not sure if that is how you meant it? If it is, please don't feel that you are responsible for your chemical sensitivities or have to justify yourself to anyone...even your husband. MCS can, and does, affect anyone and it is a result of our modern society and the toxic environment (indoor and outdoor) that we find ourselves living in. If there is anyone to blame it is certainly not you personally.
Does your husband fully understand what MCS is and how much you are suffering with it? Maybe if he learnt a bit more about it and read the stories of other people affected he would have a more caring attitude? MCS can be extremely hard on people around those directly affected and it may take him some time to truly understand it. It takes those of us unfortunate enough to experience long enough to fiure out what is going on after all. It is a concept that turns the world on its head for many people. Before I developed the condition I certainly didn't appreciate how toxic and harmful everyday chemicals really are.
Are you doing anything in the way of treatment at the moment? How do you avoid exposures? It is vital you talk to your husband and for him to agree to stop using products that might trigger your symptoms. Avoidance is the foundation for healing.
I hope other people will offer their support shortly. This is not something you want to be going through alone.
Please try to take care of yourself (we have to be selfish sometimes!) and make sure you keep us updated on your situation.
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